Yet another girl

Shocking! Ashamed and scared in a way! It was a mixture of emotions when I read the news. Yes, in between my works I was scrolling through the feed in instagram, and that is where I found this piece of shit. For a moment, I started to shiver and started to browse about them hoping that the news is fake.

So what is the news all about?  India stands first in a survey, so why am I ashamed then? The survey is all about an unsafe place for women. Oh, it’s a cliché dialogue, but still, I would like to recollect another post I read long ago. We live in a place, where we call the god of our country, bharatmatha a woman, we have all rivers in name of women, and yes goddess are worshipped in a royal way, but still, we stand ahead in this survey as well.

Ok there are enough pens and media to debate about them and am not going to express anything different.  From nirbhaya, where they blame the girl for travelling in odd times, to aasifa who doesn’t even know what periods are J we are helpless, clueless aliens left in the society. We have already put the men in society to a status, by carrying guns and pepper spray. I sometimes wonder, is it the flesh and muscles that matters so much to them. If a guy have lot of them, people are scared of him, and if a girl have, they find that their two hands are not enough to handle them 

However the centre, rejected the survey later, by stating that the sample size of 500 women will not judge the whole country and can never be voice of all women across the country. I always felt personally that all women are forward minded, even when she is put on victim end. She was broken, when you broke her virginity, yes. But she was devasted, when she decided to live life after that and the rapist kills her. She is shattered, when justice is not in her side. She was always scared of future consequences and not the current agony she is going through, because at the end of day all that could be broken is her hymen, not her.

India has number of places, where sex work is legal, and if at all , all they need is happiness till dripping stops, they could land with these places, and help them earn their bread.  Many thinks, india is just unsafe , because of the rapes J india is very famous for official rapes as well. Difficult to guess ? We do call  official rapes as arranged marriages. There are number of incidents, where a girl is least interested, and burns her dreams in the fire. She is allowed to sleep with someone, who was stranger till date and we can call marriage is just simply a lifetime sleepover with a weirdo.

Dowry death, honour killings, female infanticide, gang rapes, marital rapes, acid attack, cyber crimes and we have seen almost revolution in different forms of violence against women. Change begins with an individual. And girls, next time when you don’t want sex that day night, be bold enough to tell your husband “No”. It is high time that we live in a well-educated society and men are assertive to accept them.

 When you find a funny joke is cracked in your workplace, which in a way deconstructs the image of a girl or women say that it is not funny and let them know it is not ok.

 Not all time, men are to be blamed. There are lot of difference between feminism and using your freedom in wrong way. When you live in a country, where the pregnant goat is being raped, then it is our inability as well to stay and act smart when needed.

It is high time to realize that men and women are equal, yes. But it is the cerebral strength that is compared and not the physical strength.  It is our mere responsibility to understand the same, in addition to complaining on society.